Do they treat it like their own, or like they were hired?

John 10:11-13 ”I am the good shepherd. The good shepherd gives His life for the sheep. But a hireling, he who is not the shepherd, one who does not own the sheep, sees the wolf coming and leaves the sheep and flees; and the wolf catches the sheep and scatters them. The hireling flees because he is a hireling and does not care about the sheep.

Do the people that watch your children, treat them as their own, or as a hired hand?

You might want to find out before the wolf shows up.